October 25 is a pretty big day in my life. My dad, Mel Baudoin passed away on that date, two years ago in 2015. It’s easy for me to remember the exact date, because he died two days before his 78th birthday.
This Friday, October 27, 2017, my dad would have been 80 years old.
Now, the fact that my dad passed away so close to Halloween is no big surprise to me. Daddy, if nothing else, was a helluva showman. He would have loved the idea. He would have been preparing his ghost act, in both English and French, even as his mortal coil was in the process of shedding.
As far back as the ancient Celts, people have been associating this time of year with ghosts, spirits, and otherworldly beings. They lit fires, did awesome cosplay, and basically threw a huge shindig called Samhaim to keep their dead relatives from destroying their crops and lands. In the first century AD, the Romans did what Romans did–conquered most of the Celtic territory and assimilated Samhaim into their own rituals. Then the Catholics got involved, and completely usurped the festival into the church-sanctioned All Saints Day/All Souls Day holidays. They called this All Hallow’s Mass, and the night before (October 31) became known as All Hallow’s Eve or Halloween.
Despite the very best efforts of our early Puritan ancestors, the United States eventually embraced Halloween, commercialized it, and turned it into a cash cow for the candy and dental industries. (Approximately 25% of all candy sold in the U.S. is sold for Halloween. )
So what does all this have to do with my dad? Despite what Wes Craven said, for me Halloween is still the time to connect with our deceased ancestors. Last year, my father was with me all through October and through those hard, horrible early days of November. I heard him everywhere, felt his presence–comforting and encouraging me.
There are ways the dead can communicate with us. It’s rarely so obvious as a Class 4 Full Body Apparition. Like your guides, the deceased are subtle. Here are some ways your ghostly friends and relatives might be trying to get your attention:
- Radio: With my dad, it was music. Songs I hadn’t heard since childhood, songs I associated with my dad, were suddenly playing on the radio and in restaurants. Every time I heard them, I’d be connected to a specific memory, something that had relevance to the moment at hand.
- Dreams: If you’re one of those people who “don’t remember their dreams,” you might want to try this month. Since your dream time is the easiest way to cross over to Akashic space, this is a great place for the dearly departed to stop in and say hello, catch up with you, and deliver any message they think you might need to hear.
- Scents: For some reason, my grandfather decided to hang around last year. I know this, because my wife kept smelling cigar smoke. Seriously, there has never been a cigar anywhere near our home, but we kept smelling it in our car, in our home, everywhere. My wife (who is far more sensitive to these things than I am) described my grandfather right down to his hat, described his personality, even his speech patterns. Now my grandfather died 30 years before I met my wife, so there’s really no way she could have known any of this.
- Numbers: Meaningful numbers, dates, etc. tend to show up on signs, license plates, bills, etc. If you keep seeing your dead grandmother’s birthday showing up everywhere, chances are she’s saying hello.
- Coincidences: Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, but sometimes? Not so much. It’s really difficult for the deceased to affect change in the manifested world. But coincidences? Happy chance? Rube Goldberg-style chain of events that lead you right where you need to be? Yeah, that could be Crazy Uncle Lester trying to help you get just what you need.
So, yeah, I think about my dad a lot at this time of year. I’m pretty sure he checks in on me and the family routinely, but at Halloween? Yeah, he’s wearing a costume. My dad loved costumes!
I hope you’ve enjoyed this week’s blog. If you want to learn more about the history of Halloween, check out this amazing article from the History Channel. Please feel free to share this post. Feedback is always appreciated, and don’t forget to like us on Facebook and Twitter. Comments are always open.